Have mercy on me, my God, have mercy on me,
for in you I take refuge.
I will take refuge in the shadow of your wings
until the disaster has passed.
I cry out to God Most High,
to God, who vindicates me.

Psalm 57:1-2


Seed health

Keep Track of Your Emotional Bank Account By Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

Consider your relationship: How happy are the two of you? When something goes wrong, how quickly do you turn on your partner? Relationship expert and researcher John Gottman has proposed the idea of an emotional bank account to help people think about, keep track of, and manage their happiness as a couple. Just as you can make deposits and withdrawals from your traditional bank account, you can make deposits and withdrawals from your relationship’s emotional bank account. And, just as the balance in your traditional account affects how financially safe or insecure you feel, the balance in your emotional account affects how safe or insecure you feel in your relationship.

When your emotional bank account is high, you think positively about, and feel warmly toward, your partner. So, when he or she makes a mistake, this ‘withdrawal’ from your emotional account still leaves you with plenty to feel happy about. For instance, if you are cooking together in the kitchen and your partner accidentally steps on your toe, you are likely to laugh it off if your account is even moderately high. But when your account hovers around zero, you might respond with some nasty retort. Of course, greater offenses translate to greater withdrawals. Your account needs to be a bit higher to manage well through your partner forgetting your birthday or anniversary, being snippy with you for no clear reason, or not asking about the results of an important medical test.

Being truly close and vulnerable with each other means that you will sometimes step on each other’s toes or accidentally trip each other up. So it’s important that you work to keep your emotional bank account high.

Some ways to keep your account high are:

Remember the little things count: All the little things not only count, but they are the building blocks of our daily lives. So, be courteous, show and declare your love, and be appreciative of what your partner adds to your life.

Be attentive and supportive: To feel cared about, your partner needs for you to take an interest in him or her. When they talk about their day, truly listen.  When they struggle with a problem or are excited about a new interest, be supportive.

Do something special: Going out of your way for your partner can add lots to your account. Thinking about what’s important to your partner can be a great guide. So can just paying attention to their daily habits. Depending on habits and interests, you might bring them great happiness by bringing home donuts, giving them an “I love you” card, or just picking up your dirty socks.

Remember important dates: Even if you aren’t great with remembering dates, you can always plug important ones into your calendar. You might even make a note a few days ahead to pick up a card. This can work equally well with birthdays, anniversaries of the day you met or your wedding, and when your partner has some important meeting at work.

Fight with mutual respect: Every couple argues or has disagreements. When you do, always keep your communication respectful.

Keep it positive: According to research conducted by Dr. Gottman, healthy relationships have five positive interactions to every negative one.

By thinking in terms of an emotional bank account, you can gauge the strength of your relationship. If your account is dangerously close to zero, build up that balance. But it’s not wise to wait for that to happen. The best strategy with any relationship is to make regular deposits a matter of course, ensuring that you maintain a healthy balance and a healthy relationship.


Psalm 27!!! Kasi 27 y/o na ako.. ngee!

The Lord is my light and my salvation—
    whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life—
    of whom shall I be afraid?

When the wicked advance against me
    to devour[a] me,
it is my enemies and my foes
    who will stumble and fall.
Though an army besiege me,
    my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me,
    even then I will be confident.

One thing I ask from the Lord,
    this only do I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the Lord
    all the days of my life,
to gaze on the beauty of the Lord
    and to seek him in his temple.
For in the day of trouble
    he will keep me safe in his dwelling;
he will hide me in the shelter of his sacred tent
    and set me high upon a rock.

Then my head will be exalted
    above the enemies who surround me;
at his sacred tent I will sacrifice with shouts of joy;
    I will sing and make music to the Lord.

Hear my voice when I call, Lord;
    be merciful to me and answer me.
My heart says of you, “Seek his face!”
    Your face, Lord, I will seek.
Do not hide your face from me,
    do not turn your servant away in anger;
    you have been my helper.
Do not reject me or forsake me,
    God my Savior.
10 Though my father and mother forsake me,
    the Lord will receive me.
11 Teach me your way, Lord;
    lead me in a straight path
    because of my oppressors.
12 Do not turn me over to the desire of my foes,
    for false witnesses rise up against me,
    spouting malicious accusations.

13 I remain confident of this:
    I will see the goodness of the Lord
    in the land of the living.
14 Wait for the Lord;
    be strong and take heart
    and wait for the Lord.


CS Lewis: To love at all (x)


The Last Kalinga Tattoo Artist of the Philippines by Lars Krutak

Although decades of missionization, colonial administration, and modernization have gradually led to the abandonment of Kalinga batok (tattoo), enduring fragments of this rich tradition of body art continue to be worn by Kalinga elders: including the last generation of headhunting warriors whose numbers have perhaps dwindled to some thirty men. These World War II veterans who bravely fought Japanese machine gunners with spears, shields, and axes incited great fear in their Nipponese enemies; because once captured their heads would be taken and their bodies left to decompose in the moist air of the mountainous jungle terrain.

One of the last Kalinga warriors (mingor) to wear the traditional tattoos of his ancestors is 88-year-old Lakay Miguel (Lakay means “respected elder”). Miguel earned his marks for inter-village combat before WWII and for the heads he took during the great conflict. Because he killed or wounded more than two enemies he was permitted to receive the bikking tattoos on his chest which are the headhunter’s primary emblem. But Miguel’s bravery on the battlefield was unsurpassed and he was also allowed to receive the tattooed khaman or head-ax on his rib cage, markings on his back, and tattoos on his arms. The human anthropomorph tattooed beneath his khaman symbolizes his Japanese victims and also denote that he is a warrior of the highest rank. He also wears a faded cruciform between his eyes, three marks on his Adam’s apple as a preventive therapy against goiter, and small tally marks behind the ear that represent his number of enemy engagements.

Miguel is a WWII veteran who earned most of his tattoos combating Japanese forces. He is worried that future generations of Kalinga youth will perhaps forget what the tattooing culture of his people represents once he’s gone. “First the missionaries came, then the school teachers and then people in the towns began discriminating against those men and women who wore tattoos. Now we have no more tattooists and our custom of tattooing will disappear when my generation dies.

Miguel confided to me that one of his fondest memories was when he took the mandible of a Japanese enemy and began using it as the handle of his gangsa gong; a traditional custom of the Kalinga people. Today, gangsa gongs with human jawbone handles are considered priceless heirlooms and are only used during very special occasions.

Never looking at a gangsa the same way ever again. Goddamn shit. Igorots don’t play.